My mum taught me a woman's mind should be the most beautiful part of her.
When I was a little girl, all I aspired to be was like my mum. I remember wanting to look like her and even talk like her. I used to take her face powder and Oil of Olay and pretend I was her in the mirror.
Her strength through all her trauma always surprised me and I never really gave her the credit.
Although I only had 18 years with her, she taught me an awful lot, whether it was on this earth or when she gained her angel wings. When someone you adore is no longer here, you realise the impact they had on your life.
Here is what my mum taught me:
1. To remain strong and make people wonder how you are still smiling.
2. To always be kind, even when that person has hurt you, as they will need it the most.
3. How to be a role model for my daughter.
She was someone I looked up to. Yes she had her faults but who doesn't and I have learnt from her mistakes.
4. Not to be walked all over and know when someone is taking advantage.
My mum never let anyone walk all over her, you knew about it when you upset her. I am not as abrupt as my mum was but as the saying goes, she taught me not to tiptoe through the tulips but bulldoze through the bullshit!
5. She showed me what an independent women looked like.
She was knocked down and went through a lot but still got back up without the help of others.
6. There is more to life than craving for finer things.
Don't get me wrong, we had everything we wanted growing up and more but my mum was never one to pursue the highlife with cars or handbags. She aspired to be a great mum and friend. She made sure we had everything and I can honestly say when I sorted through her stuff after she passed, she had only a few items of clothing to her name. She was a credit to us even when she couldn't afford the school trips (we still went on them anyway). My mum did live a normal life but to us she was exceptional.
7. Always be yourself.
She was nothing but herself and sometimes this drove us insane but she never tried to be something she wasn't. She never hid the real person she was and if people didn't like it, they were the ones missing out!
8. Laughter is the fireworks of the soul.
I always remember her laughing or smiling. She lit up a room as soon as she walked in. Laughter truly is the best medicine.
9. To be an efficient multitasker.
A prime example of her in action was when she would be driving the shogun, with us kids in tow, whilst sipping a cup of coffee and putting on her mascara. This day and age it would be frowned upon but she did it very well and in her defence she was driving an automatic.
10. To love eternally and bountiful.
She did this effortlessly.
She left us beautiful memories which will forever live on in us and will be passed down to each generation.
I was very lucky to have her as my mum and will be forever grateful that she chose me.
Sleep tight my angel.